Forgiveness therapy (II)

Free the prisoners of your thoughts
“Don’t worry. The whole world is your creation and that needs to be taken literally,” dr Len says.
The violent acts of the mentally ill patients of the Hawaii State Hospital were his responsibility simply because they had appeared in his life. Their problems were his creation and, therefore, all he had to do in order to heal them was work on himself to erase the thoughts that had generated those acts. We could say that this is an extreme exaggeration, although the recent discoveries of quantum physics seem to lead to the same conclusions. That means that, if our children have a health problem, something inside of us has caused that problem. If our business partner is deceiving us, we have made that happen; if our spouse is cheating on us, we have attracted that.
It seems absurd. Still, the events in our lives bring back memories, past action patterns and strange reactions. After all, we have all experienced reactions that have surprised us and those who know us well, when we didn’t seem to be ourselves, right?
If you are confronted with a problem, a limit-situation, suffering or something upsetting, the question you need to ask yourself automatically is, “What element of what is going on inside me has generated or attracted this problem?” Then, you need to erase the thoughts that have caused this problem.
But how do we know which thoughts have created it? “Don’t worry,” dr Len says. “Part of you knows. All you need to do is to allow it to do that.” When I judge a person, that person becomes a “prisoner of my thoughts.”
We create the world by our thoughts – and, for the kahunas, that is not a metaphor. It is reality. From their viewpoint, which is the same as that of all religions, God has created perfect beings, but we can no longer see that, because the thought comes between what we see and what really exists.

We no longer see what really exists – we only see our own thoughts
“The world is what we think it is,” said Serge Kahili King, a doctor of phychology and a world authority on kahunas,
Modern psychology tends to reach the same conclusions, since it states that people do not react to the events themselves, but to their own perception of those events. Moreover, studies show that people tend to conform to other people’s perceptions.
In other words, if we repeatedly tell a child that he is bad, he will end up acting as such. If an employee is repeatedly praised for his performance, even if it is not really great, he will work better and better.
In a kahuna’s language, this phenomenon is expressed as follows: if I think about someone in a certain way, that person becomes a prisoner of my thoughts. That means that he tends to conform to my perception and, sooner or later, he will behave in a way that will confirm my perception of him. Therefore, a person’s actions are a consequence of what I think about him and I need to take responsibility for that. That is why “not judging” is the only correct attitude towards another person. If there is something to correct, the kahunas say, that is our errors in judgement. Therefore, maybe we shouldn’t be very surprised that dr Len healed his patients simply by working on himself.
What exactly did dr Len do in order to heal his patients? “I repeated continuously, ‘I’m sorry. Please, forgive me!’” dr Len serenely stated. That was all.

Experience forgiveness through the eyes of a child
Really shocking! I suppose dr Len likes to shock – to surprise our mental routine by a strong, unexpected blow.
He says that people, especially Westerners, think too much. More precisely, they are caught in the routine of certain programmes that run unconsciously. Contrary to what we think, he strongly claims that the intellect cannot solve problems. I think Einstein would have agreed with him, since he said at some point that “a problem could not be solved at the level of thinking that had generated it.” That is why all you need to do is become aware of the problem that you feel at a physical, emotional, mental etc level and then begin to purify the thinking that has attracted it, by a process of repentance and forgiveness.
“Please, forgive me for making you the prisoner of my thoughts and influencing your behaviour distructively by the negativity of my thoughts.”
It is the same in Christianity – prayer needs to be preceded by repentance and by asking for forgiveness. That is what the conscious can do – repent and ask for forgiveness. The rest is the job of the supraconscious – the harmonizer, the healer. We are the prisoners of our minds and we cannot escape by using the mind, which is precisely the gaoler.
This process can be used in various situations – when we are ill, when someone close is ill, when we are confronted with professional, financial or sentimental problems etc.
If it is a health problem, we can say to our body:
“I’m sorry I’ve hurt you with my negative thoughts. Please, forgive me.” And we repeat this sincerely until the problem disappears.
If our child has problems at school, we can repeat mentally:
“I’m sorry that I’ve created these problems for you with my thoughts. Please, forgive me.” It is essential that the state should be authentic and the request for forgiveness should be completely sincere. The immediate consequence is a feeling of love and dr Len and Morrnah Simeona say that this is a sign the healing has begun.
When you first read these things, you will probably reject them as silly bedtime stories for children. But the kahunas say that the supraconscious is receptive precisely to the child’s language and ignores academic phrasings. It is interesting that psychoanalysis has reached a similar conclusion – pompous, clever, intellectualized interpretations do not reach patients.
The access to the miracle and, implicitly, to the supraconscious is only possible when we begin once again to look at the world through the eyes of a child. This is about rediscovering innocence, not about cultivating childishness. The problem with adults is that they have lost their innocence, but they have enhanced their childishness, by systematically avoiding to take responsibility.
The kahunas say that, by reinstating innocence – the state in which we do not judge, we do not label, we are not obsessed with personal gain – our lives can transform radically: we give up on uselessly complicating our lives and we regain our joy of life, we become more creative, we adjust more flexibly and effectively to changes and the quality of our relationships becomes significantly better.
The four things that matter most
Dr Ira Byock, a doctor from the US, has worked a lot with terminally ill patients and has described his experiences and conclusions in two best-selling books. One of them is called The Four Things that Matter Most and it refers to the most frequent declarations that ill people on their deathbed make for those who are close to them.

These are:
FORGIVE ME
I FORGIVE YOU
THANK YOU
I LOVE YOU
Dr Ira Byock believes that we don’t have to be on our deathbed in order to use those declarations which, in his opinion, have huge potential for healing our relationships and deeply transforming our lives.

 

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